- Using all the material from this unit (your own work and other students'), select a few features of different parenting styles that you'd like to emulate as a parent. Tell us why these characteristics appeal to you.
- Did anything you learned about parenting styles surprise you in any way? Tell us!
- Did something in another student's blog trigger an idea on your part, regarding parenting styles? Talk about it here.
- Come up with your own questions and comments about the postings in this unit.
Sunday, February 3, 2008
Unit Three Talk It Over
Okay, you've learned about parenting styles, interviewed a parent, and read other students' summaries of their parent interviews. Now, let's have a conversation. Remember... keep the discussion anonymous.
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I like the fact that my family tries to do something together at least once a week. Even if its just having a big dinner together or going out to see a movie. I think that kind of togetherness helps build a strong trust between parent and child so if we need help with something we can feel comfortable asking for it. I also think that i can learn a lot from my parents mistakes.
In my family we always say whats on our mind. I love how open that makes us and how easy it is to communicate. Having my parents being open with us kids shows us that we too can share our feelings. Having a strong communication with your kids to me is the most important aspect of parenting.
Like Brittany's family, we often vent and "share" what's on our minds. I have two brothers and we used to "share" in much more colorful ways. Now that we're all older, wiser, and more mature, we don't resort to primitive expressions of violence to share our feelings. The irony here is how important being "civil" and "nonviolent" was/is with my parents. As Marvin Gaye once sang, "War is not the answer", but with some siblings, that ain't always the case.
With my children, being kind, being compassionate to others and to other's feeling is so important. We have dinner together every night, and we discuss this stuff: how to solve problems with friends, how to get along with others, how to share. I'm hopeful that these family dinners will help us maintain those avenues of direct communication.
In my family we also share whatever is on our minds, which makes communicating easier...i think that if we didnt talk about everything then we wouldnt be as close as we are. we always call each other to make sure we're safe and alive.
my mother prepared us for life after we moved out of the house. at a young age she made sure we all knew how to cook, clean, and do laundry. I think that it was very important that she did this because when we do graduate and go to college we need to know how to do these thing.
-LY
I believe in some ways, my parents are raising us kids decently, but I also disagree with things as well. If I kids, I believe that if my children wanted something, they would have to earn it. Punishing wise, I believe if they do something wrong, or act inappropriate, I will start taking items away that they enjoy. (TV, Phone, Internet, Etc.) Also, if they have done something very well on their own, I would reward them.
Nathan P.
my family doesnt really spend much time together, we're always having different schedules and it makes it hard to be with each other, but we have a very strong trust between us and we always make time to listen to what one of us has to say.
My family is kind of crazy. I'm always at a rodeo everyweekend and my mom usually comes with me. My sister and my dad usually have a softball tournament to go to in the opposite direction. Both my parents work during the week and commute to San Jose. We don't spend as much time together as we should and since were so busy and usually tired, we tend to not always get along. I have a great family and great parents. They are strict, but my sister and I both have a lot. I think when I have kids there are a lot of things I'll do differently.
As a parent(which i never plan to be)I will TALK to my kids about stuff, I wont be afraid to share my own experiences with them and use that as i reason why they shouldnt be stupid.I wont be insanely strict but I will follow up on punishments. I dont agree with parents who let their children run a muck or are WAY too strict. Being a parent is a balancing act, not a tug of war (bumber sticker quote!) haha not really.just made it up.
My family doesn't spend as much time together as we should. On the weekends my mom and I are at a rodeo or a barrel race and my dad and bother are at some ind of sport for my brother. During the week I'm out riding, my mom is carting my bother around to his multiple sporting practices and my dad is at work; so there isn't a whole lot of time left for 'family time'. I think family time is very important and when I have kids I will try to make time for it
Leeanne M
Like Mr. McMillan my family used to always have dinner together every night. But as us children grew up there was to much tension and i was the first to walk away from the family meal. Over the years my family has grown apart. When or if i have children i will raise them with stern morals needs for respect. I wont try to push my beliefs on them but in ways it is inevitable. Once they are old enough to begin deciding things for themselves i will discuss things with them and try and come to an understanding.
I also really like chelseys quote "Being a parent is a balancing act, not a tug of war" awsome
Good job with this posting, everyone. I find it interesting that some people are looking ahead to their futures and making predictions about their own parenting (or whether or not they will actually become parents). I remember journaling about this when I was a teenager.
I also like how "CSwanson" responded to Chelsea's quote!
Keep it up!
My family is similar to Brittany in the way that we speak our minds regularly. One thing that my family always does together is every weekday we try and watch Wheel of Fortune (R). together; its nice to have something like this where we can just talk share our day and have some fun all in a short span of 30 minutes. The things i've learned from all those times...
My family tends to spend a lot of time together, we always have dinner together and watch tv or hangout in the garage together. Most weekends we spend quite a bit of time together, especially because all of mine and my brothers friends love to be at our house. I think my family and i spend more time together than most families, but we tend to speak our minds about certain things and get in trouble for it in the end.
SHELBI
As a parent i would let the kid know whos boss. Its sad to see parents not knowing what they're doing and letting the kids run the household. In my eyes, thats not how to do it at all. My parents raised me tough but in the end i think it was the best thing ever. My brother and i know how to respect my parents whether we like their decisions or not. Don't get me wrong, my parents were never "mean" to my brother or i and thay ALWAYS showed us love but they did it in a stern way. i have learned that if you get all your stuff done right the first way or when you are supposed to for that matter, you will get alot more out of it. I personally think that disiplining your children the right way will better not only yourself but your family as well.
Brit S
In my family , we always have time to say what's going on in our lives whether that be postive or negative. My mom always gives whatever advice she can to me so I make the right decisions. It always is nice to find a sense of relief that our parents have dealt with similiar things and can help us through it. My mom has taught me self value,self respect, good self esteem, high morals,and values along with being open minded with everything. It shows great potential for me to want to aquire the same things to my future children and pass it on!
Destiny L =]
My mom always knows when something is wrong with any of her kids so she always wants us to tell her whats wrong and talk to her if we ever need anyone to talk to. This to me is a way of us bonding and making us become a lot closer. I can also tell my big sister anything and were always doing stuff together!
Vanessa P
I agree with Destiny L my mom and dad are always giving me advice and even if i don't appreciate it then it can often be useful and its always in my mind. If and/or when I become a parent I am a believer in talking to your children as adults from the day they are born, I really hate baby-talk and think it is important to keep a regular dialogue about anything and everything with your children, always.
--Claire B
My family is very close and enjoy spending time with each other (most of the time).As a parent i will teach my kids how to be respectful, just how my parents raised me. their are to many kids who walk all over their parents and i see it all the time. i don't think i will be strict but my kids will know the limits and wrong from right.
As a parent, I would want to raise my kids the same way my parents raised me. I say that because, they have done a good job. They are always there for me for te good or bad. Its a great feeling knowing that you always have some one to lean on when you need to or go and talk to some one about something serious and never get judged. Nothing about the way my parents style of raising surpised me.
I've always thought about what kind of parent I'd be, not because I'm planning on it anytime soon, but because I know having a child will be a major event in my life. At first when I thought about the fact, I always said I'd be a "cool" dad. But the more I mature, the more I start to realize what a successful parent really needs to do. I know I will be strict in the areas where I, myself, faulted in as a child, yet also be lenient on other areas. Communication will be a huge part of my parenting technique. I liked what Chelsey said about being able to talk to your kids about things. I believe that the most successful relationships between parents and children require a lot of communication.
I agree completely with Luis' comment about the most successful relationships between parents and children requiring a lot of communication. I would expand that to all successful relationships! And I think that being able to re-evaluate what qualities truly matter is an important aspect, too... good instinct! I also like Amber's point about being able to talk to her parents without feeling judged. That's great!
Mrs. A
It's just me, my mom, and my brother. Well my mom works all day because shes a single parent and my brother does his own thing so there is not really any communication or closeness. I will make sure to communicate with my children, teach them respect, lay down rules, and have a stronger bond with them then I do with my family :)
Adrianna M.
I found that some of the kids are very thankful that they get together with their families once a week, for me i kind of expect to hangout with my family more than once a week and m definently thankful for that. I also learned that i am very fortunante to have the parents that i do i have. I might like an excercise to see how man of the wuestions you could have answered by yourself.
-SYN
As a parent in the future, i hope to have a close relationship with my kids and be able to talk about anything at all. In my family, things often go on unsaid and we don't always say whats going on in our lives. Since i know what it is like, I will know how to act as a parent and try to help them in any way possible. I have learned lots of good qualities from my parents as well that i hope to develop in the future.
What I like about my family is that we are very close,even though we don't spend much time together.I also like how my mom talks to us,she is more like a friend. BEY BEY......=)
After reading this unit I found out what kind of parent my parents are. They are authoritarian parents and i'm glad their like that because I know kids with overly permissive parents and it's shocking to see the difference.
I agree with everyone. Being honest about ones feelings, being open, sharing in activities. All of those can be important to keep the family close.I know living with my mom we are always talking about what we are going through on a day to day basis. My mom has always encouraged me to move out get a good career and start a family of my own, so i like her parenting.
I think spending time with your family and going on vacations is a great way to interact. I think having a strong relationship with your parents is very important. Knowing that you have caring and loving parents like mine. I also think communication takes a big part in parenting.
I would like let my children make their own mistakes and keep an open relationship with them. I wouldn't want them hiding things and feeling uncomfortable to talk about their problems. Communication is definitely important.
Courtney S
I think having a strong relationship with your parents is very important and open communication because i have that with my parents and i hope when imm a parent i can have that with my kids too.
Michelle G
i agree with twinshraa because i think every family should at least have a family dinner because everyone is doing there own thing during the day and dinner just brings the family together,being able to talk about what is happening in your life.
I think that having a sort of "family night" once a week is a great idea. It's a great way to have everyone together for some time. I also think it's great when parents invite their kids to talk to them. I think this lets the kid know that there is always someone to talk to, and it is nice to have that peace of mind.
Derek H.
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